Things to Talk About on a First Date – Keep Your First Date Interesting and Fun

So you’ve landed a date but you don’t know what to talk about. Relax, she agreed to go out with you and that means she likes you or she is interested. The thing you need to do now is to keep her interest growing, and what better way to keep her from being bored is to have good things to talk about on a first date, here are some of my tips and topics.

Nobody Starts From Scratch

You’re having dinner with a lovely girl and there are a couple of reasons why you ended up with a dinner date. A common friend set you up? Did you get her number in a club? Use these shared connections and experiences to have things to talk about on a first date. You can tell a funny (but not embarrassing) story about your common friend or comment about how fun the club was. The goal here is to start it up and get her to talk.

A good conversation starter that works both ways is to compliment her dress, shoes, or hair. Women love being complimented about their looks especially if they prepared for your date. Ask her where she got her shoes or if she’s wearing an interesting piece of jewelry, tell her that you like it. She might open up about it and tell you a story that will keep the conversation going.

Listen Well and Ask Questions

Sometimes you don’t even need to think of things to talk about on a first date. All you need is to listen to your date and let her talk. Most people love to talk about themselves, and the mark of a good conversationalist is the ability to listen.

Have you ever been told that you are a good listener? If not, shut up and listen to your date. When she pauses, ask her a question to keep her talking. It’ll show her that you are listening intently and that you are really focused on your conversation.

When You Need to Step Up

Dates don’t always go well conversation wise. Some women are just shy or – unfortunately – has lost interest. If this happens, you can pop up some things to talk about on a first date and keep your date back on track.

Suggested Topics:

Careers and Passions

These are the most common things to talk about on a first date. The beauty of it is, you can ask her directly what she does for a living. Usually its either she likes her job or she hates it. Respond on how she feels and the way she talks about her career. If she’s happy with her work, feel happy for her. If she hates her job ask her what she would rather do.

Ask her what she does in her free time. Most people have hobbies that they are really passionate about. When women talk about their passions, they usually have lots of things to say so this is a really good topic.

If she asks you about what you do in your life, talk with positivity as if you really love what you are doing, if not, don’t be too negative about it as it may drag the conversation down.

A Recent Funny Experience

When you’ve established a connection with your date, you can tell her almost anything as long as they are not offensive. My go to topic is any recent activity that I’ve done. Now don’t just go ranting about ordinary things that you’ve experienced, tell her the most interesting ones and make it funny.

Childhood Experiences

A good thing to talk about on a first date is childhood experiences. But don’t ask questions like, “What is your fondest memory when you were a child?” You need to ease your way into a topic and not be blunt.

If you want the conversation to steer into a certain topic, you can tell a funny or interesting story that is related to your topic. For example in childhood experiences, you can tell a story about your 4th grace teacher. If she responds with a laugh and tells a story herself, just let her talk and carry on with the conversation.

Additional Tips:

- To be good in having conversations, you should listen 80% of the time. The 20% is for additional questions, nodding, and looking interested.

- If you’re going to brag, talk about things that you are passionate about like your career or your favorite sport, don’t spend hours talking about your expensive car or your huge bonus.

- Always look for common interests. That way she can feel more connected to you.

- Relax, let loose, and have fun!


Your conversation skills with the opposite sex isn’t merely to avoid boring dates, but it’ll determine if she’s going to develop romantic interest to you. Furthermore, the right conversation will allow you to build rapport with her while saying the wrong things could turn her off. To become a truly charismatic person with girls, I suggest you check out Mirabelle Summers site where she’ll guide you to use the conversation during dates to attract her further.